The Overprotective Parents.

It had been more than a week since my last post about how music influence was really affecting the child development. Today, i want to share something about the overprotective parents. This topic came across my mind like 3 days ago when i was visiting one of my friends' house. While having a few sip of the drinks, there was this one little girl was playing beside me. As we started the conversation, i learnt that this girl, name Nicole is 4 years of age, and attending a nursery or kindergarten (i'm assuming this because she told me that she had a lot of friends in her school). As time goes, she seems very excited to talk and we even play together with the rubber band that she had at the moment. After a little while, she said something which had make me to write about this topic.

"Mommy didn't allow me to play with friends down there", said Nicole.

Maybe for some good reason, parents always forbidding their children to do this and that. At some point, i am agree with what they did. So many question arises i believe like how if they gonna get hurt?how if they fall to the ground and injured themselves? and worse than that, how if they'll get kidnapped by those human-trading syndicates?like what was happen to our beloved young girl, Sharline who was one missing and yet, still missing until this time. I know, looking back all this possibilities, there are reason to be protective.But, for how long we will be the guardian angel for them?

A few more example:

Sonali Sharma will not send her eight-year old son on the school bus because she has heard that the bus drivers drive rashly. Preeti Mishra does not allow her twelve-year old daughter to sleep over at her friends' houses because she feels that she is not sure if other parents will provide adequate supervision. Lynn D'Souza says she gets the jitters every time her son climbs onto the jungle gym in the park because she is convinced he will fall and hurt himself. Mukesh Mehta did not allow his daughter to go on a school picnic to the beach for fear that she may drown. ( extract from www.indiaparenting.com )

When we read through the example above, we'll know that we as parents, are possible for being over protective to our children. Being protective sometimes, can be too radical and the result from being over protective are something that we can't really imagine without thinking about the future consequences which will wholly effect the child development.

How we resolve?

I am not the right authority, or even a person who suppose to tell or yell at people about how to resolve the situation. What i'm doing here is just sharing and sharing about something that will benefit the future generations, that was the only goal , which explain why i'm doing this blog. Every parents,i believe, when their child was born, they are just so happy until they wouldn't let even a tiny pieces of dust harm the new-born baby. But let us remind ourselves about what wisdom once said, "we will never learn about anything, before we done any wrong and learn to figure it right, or fall to the ground and struggle to stand up, just to run again".

This is another article which i think, useful.

How to be less overprotecting: Establishing lines of communication

Overprotective parents should change their attitude if they want their children to grow up as independent, confident adults. If a parent suspects that he is excessively protective, fearful and inhibiting, then as a first step, he should confirm his doubt by asking the other parent for an opinion. In the case of a single parent, he can share his concerns with someone equally concerned for the child's welfare or even other parents. This will act as a reality check. While he need not adopt other people's opinions as gospel truth, the advice and information will help him make an informed decision about what is safe for his child.

The second step he should take is listen to his child. He should try to convey to his child that his caution stems from concern for the child's safety and not from a lack of trust in the child's competence. He could discuss the dangers of the activity with the child and advise him what to do in case of an emergency. He should make judgements based on an assessment of the child's overall competence and judgement.

Despite adopting these measures, there may still be several occasions where a parent may still deny his child permission to participate in anactivity. But this is a parent's prerogative and has the weight of experience and superior judgement behind it. What is safe and acceptable for one child may not be so for another. At the end of the day, parents are the best judges of what activities are acceptable for their children in terms of safety. However, the child will realize that while she may be denied this particular pleasure, there will be other activities that will be permissible. What is safe and acceptable will always be a bone of contention between parents and children, but the important thing is for parents to realize that sometimes they just need to let go.

( extract from www.indiaparenting.com )

Thank you very much for reading this!